Thinking About Getting Into Swinging?

With infidelity rates amongst couples now well above 50%, it is really unfortunate that so many people are choosing to seek excitement outside the confines and security of their primary relationship. Of course some people are already aware that there are alternatives to "playing away" but the timing of any discussions about you both having a dabble in the swinging scene is absolutely critical.

There is a well worn and not entirely correct saying that couples only swing to spice up a flagging sex life. Whilst this may be true for some people it is probably not a majority point of view. In the main, committed swinger couples see the scene as an adult playtime that they can share with each other and rather than supporting a flagging sex life, their swinging experiences enhances an already vibrant life in the bedroom.

Here are ten questions that you need to discuss over a period of time with your partner before you raise the topic of swinging. Answering NO to more than half of these and suggesting a swinging adventure might see you in the dog house for an extended period of time...

1) Shall we go to a nude beach someday soon?
2) Should we watch porn together more often?
3) Have you ever fantasized about having sex with anybody else?
4) Should we be kissing more?
5) Shall we top up your sexy underwear drawer soon?
6) Shall we buy some new bedroom toys to experiment with?
7) Do you think the neighbours are naked in their hot tub?
8) Would you like us to take a bath together at the weekend?
9) Would you ever open the door naked to the pizza delivery guy?
10) How does it make you feel when other people flirt with me/you?

There is still something critical to think about even if you have got this far and you have spoken about swinging and this is something that you need to be really, really honest with yourself.
 "How will you feel seeing your other half being pleasured by another person and really enjoying themselves?" This can be a deal breaker for many people because the fantasy of swinging probably involves them having sex with others and not necessarily their other half having sex with someone else - especially if the other half is having a really great time. It can be a shock to see your other half seemingly responding better to a "new" touch than to your familiar touch, but of course this is a natural physical response and only to be expected.

There are ways to ease yourselves into the swinging scene and to take little incremental steps so that you each feel safe and secure. It is important to both have comfort boundaries before each and every event and for each of you to adhere and respect those boundaries. Swingers Clubs are really great places for first timers to dip their toes in to the scene. Clubs in the UK are invariably safe, clean and really fun places to go. Every Club adheres to one principle rule - No, means no and there is neither a requirement, nor an expectation to do anything other than enjoy yourselves in your own way.

If you have got this far and you are a man or a woman still wanting to talk to your other half about swinging, remember than openness, honesty and absolute trust are the foundations of a successful and happy swinging life.

If you do get involved... Good for you guys! You will probably enjoy the lifestyle in your own way and on your own terms in a manner that is comfortable and safe, yet wholly exciting for you both. Don't judge what you choose to do against what others do - just be yourselves and enjoy. Oh and welcome to our world, a world that you will notice has suddenly become a bright, vivid, technicoloured world full of excitement, thrills and sexy adventures.