Thursday, 24 December 2015

Is the Midlands the best place to live if you are a Swinger?

Notwithstanding the fact that if you live in the Midlands you can get virtually anywhere in the UK easier than if you live elsewhere, it seems that the Midlands is also blessed to have the two most popular and progressive Swingers Clubs in the whole of the UK. The best news of all though is that they are both completely different to each other and so not in any way local competitors.

Swinging may never become truly mainstream in the United Kingdom, but our society today is much more liberal than at any time in its history as more and more Swingers Clubs are opening across the country. This ever expanding choice is no bad thing and it does provide more choice, but it appears that just as many Clubs are failing as are succeeding and in a market that is already fairly narrow in appeal, it takes something fairly special to make a club really successful.

The Swingrs Team recently undertook a trip to the Midlands with the purpose of taking a more analytical view of two popular Swingers Clubs. Both of these Clubs have huge numbers of loyal patrons who claim that these are the best two Clubs in the whole of the United Kingdom. These are our thoughts…

Chameleons Club in Darlaston (Junction 10, M6) has been around for a while now and it has a great and well-deserved reputation for being one of the best Swingers Club in the UK. The Club is open 7 days a week and has days/nights that cater exclusively for couples (Saturdays), bisexuals (Mondays) and there is even a naked night on a Tuesday where modesty gets left behind at the front desk. Most days, the Club opens mid-afternoon and stays open until late and there are rarely days when it is not busy. If you are travelling from outside the local area, the Club has rooms available on site to rent and all rooms have a comfortable bed and en suite facilities, but be prepared to book ahead – this is a popular option and the rooms do get booked a long time in advance, in particular when big events have been advertised.

One of the hot tubs at Chameleons
Chameleons is what is known as a dress down Club. This means that when you arrive, you dress down into a towel, sexy underwear (or shorts) or into the theme of the evening. No-one wanders around the club in street clothing, it is underwear, shorts, a towel or even naked! The Club’s lower floor comprises a bar and socialising area along with two very large hot tubs. The first floor has a steam room, more social areas, a cinema and a number of private lockable (as well as open) rooms whilst the top floor features a number of newly renovated play rooms as well as a small dungeon room.

Our experiences of this Club have been overwhelmingly positive. It is a very easy going and safe environment where sexy fun may not be guaranteed, but a fun and relaxing time in a sexy environment invariably is. Being a dress down Club and fairly intimate in its layout, those who are ready to play and who hook up with like-minded people can have the time of their lives – and many do!

Elsewhere in the Midland is the town of West Bromwich and right there on the High Street is a Swingers Club called Xtasia. In recent years, this club has seen a revolution in ideas and concepts under the stewardship of its new owners. Xtasia is one of the longest standing Clubs in the UK, but for those who have not been for a few years – the transformation has been remarkable. Club Xtasia is actually a fully licensed nightclub complete with dance floor, high end sound system and fabulous lighting. The Club owners have also recently acquired the pub that was next door to Xtasia and they have now created a gated environment that caters for Swingers as well as lovers of the Fet life.

Xtasia "Guest Star" DJ - in front of 400+ Swinging party goers
The reason that Chameleons and Xtasia are not competitors is that they each offer an entirely different experience. Whereas Chameleons is very much a dressed down, chilled out experience (with sex immediately on hand for those ready to go) Xtasia provides for a Nightclub experience with a highly sexually charged atmosphere. One Saturday night in October 2015, Xtasia had more than 600 people in attendance for a major event that had the rafters lifted and the walls shaking. Guest DJ’s who are nationally recognised occasionally feature and the dress code means that the Club goers always arrive looking the part because jeans and trainers are simply not permitted.  It might be expected that a Nightclub theme might attract nightclub prices at the bar, but this is not the case, a double spirit with a mixer is a very reasonable £5.

As well as the fabulous dance floor area there are also plenty of other areas to explore within Xtasia including a cinema, Jacuzzi, attic dogging area, play rooms and a cool down chill out zone. The new owners of Xtasia have raised the bar in respect of successfully organising truly imaginative and successful events that attract ever greater numbers of sexy Swingers. It may not offer the dress down, instant contact opportunities that area available nearby in Chameleons, but why look to compete with something that is already very successful in that respect anyway?

Xtasia foam party
Club Xtasia is successful because the new owners have built and are still developing a sexual utopia that caters for all and which is centered around a large and well equipped dance floor. In 2016, look out for events already advertised that include stomping rave nights (DPraved) with “named” guest DJ’s, outrageous foam parties and the new kinkster special “Freakers Ball” that kicks off in March. For the out of towner, don’t despair, right next door to Xtasia is a Premier Inn and if you book ahead, you can get nights for just £35 per night. Fortunately, Xtasia help you plan your nights by publishing their calendar of events a whole year ahead so we can all enjoy these outstanding nights.

In summary then, the Midlands has two truly exceptional Swingers venues and both are probably the best at what they each do, without actually being in competition with each other. In that respect, the Midlands probably IS the best place to live if you are a Swinger, but fortunately for the rest of us, both of these Clubs have inexpensive hotels on-site or literally next door. 

Both of these Clubs, like all in the UK are members only and the owners of both venues require that anyone planning to attend telephones the Club beforehand and checks the membership requirements.

Xtasia: http://www.xtasia.co.uk/ Tel 07850 236 053


Chameleons: http://www.chameleons.cc/ Tel 0121 568 6117

Wednesday, 9 December 2015

Thinking About Getting Into Swinging?

With infidelity rates amongst couples now well above 50%, it is really unfortunate that so many people are choosing to seek excitement outside the confines and security of their primary relationship. Of course some people are already aware that there are alternatives to "playing away" but the timing of any discussions about you both having a dabble in the swinging scene is absolutely critical.

There is a well worn and not entirely correct saying that couples only swing to spice up a flagging sex life. Whilst this may be true for some people it is probably not a majority point of view. In the main, committed swinger couples see the scene as an adult playtime that they can share with each other and rather than supporting a flagging sex life, their swinging experiences enhances an already vibrant life in the bedroom.

Here are ten questions that you need to discuss over a period of time with your partner before you raise the topic of swinging. Answering NO to more than half of these and suggesting a swinging adventure might see you in the dog house for an extended period of time...

1) Shall we go to a nude beach someday soon?
2) Should we watch porn together more often?
3) Have you ever fantasized about having sex with anybody else?
4) Should we be kissing more?
5) Shall we top up your sexy underwear drawer soon?
6) Shall we buy some new bedroom toys to experiment with?
7) Do you think the neighbours are naked in their hot tub?
8) Would you like us to take a bath together at the weekend?
9) Would you ever open the door naked to the pizza delivery guy?
10) How does it make you feel when other people flirt with me/you?

There is still something critical to think about even if you have got this far and you have spoken about swinging and this is something that you need to be really, really honest with yourself.
 "How will you feel seeing your other half being pleasured by another person and really enjoying themselves?" This can be a deal breaker for many people because the fantasy of swinging probably involves them having sex with others and not necessarily their other half having sex with someone else - especially if the other half is having a really great time. It can be a shock to see your other half seemingly responding better to a "new" touch than to your familiar touch, but of course this is a natural physical response and only to be expected.

There are ways to ease yourselves into the swinging scene and to take little incremental steps so that you each feel safe and secure. It is important to both have comfort boundaries before each and every event and for each of you to adhere and respect those boundaries. Swingers Clubs are really great places for first timers to dip their toes in to the scene. Clubs in the UK are invariably safe, clean and really fun places to go. Every Club adheres to one principle rule - No, means no and there is neither a requirement, nor an expectation to do anything other than enjoy yourselves in your own way.

If you have got this far and you are a man or a woman still wanting to talk to your other half about swinging, remember than openness, honesty and absolute trust are the foundations of a successful and happy swinging life.

If you do get involved... Good for you guys! You will probably enjoy the lifestyle in your own way and on your own terms in a manner that is comfortable and safe, yet wholly exciting for you both. Don't judge what you choose to do against what others do - just be yourselves and enjoy. Oh and welcome to our world, a world that you will notice has suddenly become a bright, vivid, technicoloured world full of excitement, thrills and sexy adventures.


Tuesday, 8 December 2015

Wednesday, 2 December 2015

Holidays for Swingers

Sexy holidays?... Yes please!


If the thought of a bucket and spade holiday fills you with dread and the sound of screeching and screaming kids drives you to distraction - Why not try something completely different?

No matter how small or how large your budget, we can help you find a place to go where it wont be too difficult to have a type of holiday that you might not want to tell your Mum about but that you will surely find very memorable indeed!

To summarise your sexy holiday opportunities...


Something for the weekend?
Stay in the UK and book a couple of nights in a Lodge at the fabulous Eureka Party Venue. Spread out over 23 acres of Kent countryside and boasting an outdoor pool, Eureka's also has sauna, jacuzzi a steam room and also themed parties every Friday & Saturday night. You might need to book early in the summer but you are sure to have a memorable weekend. Don't forget that two of the most popular Swingers Clubs in the UK have great hotel facilities on site or literally next door. Both of these Clubs are in the Midlands and both are easily accessible from the Motorway networks. Chameleons has rooms on site for as little as £35 per night and Xtasia has a Premier Inn Hotel literally next door.

Thanks to the proliferation of low cost airlines you can also fly to Europe and enjoy a little bit of Eurosex. First mention must go to the legendary and infamous Fun4Two Swingers Club near Rotterdam in the Netherlands. Established already for 20 years it is probably the best Club in Europe and there are rooms available to stay for the weekend.

Outside of the high season of July and August, the notorious resort of Cap d'Agde is perfectly doable for a weekend of naked, naughtiness. If you don't know about Cap d'Agde yet - take a look at the Cap d'Agde page HERE and get up to speed. It is THE adult playground of the world. Staying just for the weekend try the HOTEL EVE or NATUREVA SPA or contact AGN, the largest holiday rental company in Cap d'Agde.


Spreading your wings a little further and you can find sexy little boutique Swingers Hotels like La Macarena in Malaga and La Mirage in Gran Canaria. These hotel/resorts cater exclusively for couples and are entirely clothing optional. Our advise would be to DON'T GO if you are the shy, retiring type. If, on the other hand you think that you can party naked 24/7.......

You can even party in the Caribbean without your clothes, without your inhibitions and without your money! Fabulous All Inclusive Resorts like Desire in Cancun and Hedonism in Jamaica offer a truly exotic swinging holiday experience.